Be honest, but not mean. Tell the person asking you out that you don't want that type of relationship with them. If you still want to remain friends, say so, but understand that the person you are talking to may not feel the same way. Understand that saying this will most likely change your relationship for the worse and be prepared for that.
Important - don't feel badly about telling them the truth - it may hurt their feelings now, but it would be far more hurtful to lie to them or lead them on.
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How to refuse a date when you are not interested
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Firstly keep it simple!!! Don't procrastinate and go on and on and on. The more you talk the more likely you'll be to make conflicting statements. I've met nice guys who I just didn't want date for whatever reason. So I just told them that I wasn't particularly into the whole dating thing at the moment, if they wanted to chill and hang out that's fine and if they didn't that was cool too. The guy retains his dignity, he feels like he's still got an element of control in the situation and there are no hard feelings which is great especially if it's someone who you could bump into again! Hope this helps, it's always worked pretty well for me, I've made some good friends and one of the guys I eventually ended up dating after we were friends for a while. Good luck ladies!
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Show him a photograph of your brother and tell him that is how you used to look before the operation.
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Say you just got over a long and difficult relationship. No one wants a girl with baggage! Then you could still even be friends, if you wanted to.
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It may sound a little unkind, but keep talking about an ex partner! No prospective new partner wants to keep hearing about how wonderful someone else was! It really does work! Only try this though with people you really don't want to see again!
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I never refuse a date, because I didnt have the balls to, but I have learnt alot from people by not refusing. I met my best friend through not refusing and because we didnt get along well through dating, we now are the bestest friends in the world. Also at first I didnt really like a guy, but when on a date because he insisted and I felt I needed to, now weve been together a short while and hes grown on me and now we get along great!!
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Put yourself in the guy's shoes. Don't be cruel and don't burn any bridges. Someone that you think you have nothing in common with today could be the man of your dreams in two years. People change. Always thank him for asking and tell him you are flattered but .... -I'm really busy these days, -I'm not sure we have anything in common. -let's not do anyting we'll both regret.
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I was offered a date by a man, he came into my shop, he talked with me for a minute and left his number, we contacted eachother and got to know eachother, found out we have loads in common, he later sent a drunk text at 2am waking me up, saying "I love you" I havent heard from him since. But best one is I met a guy, we didnt get along really we dated for a month or so, we were TOO compatible, we ended our relationship, and we have been best friends for 7 years almost, he helps me with all my guy problems and me with his girl problems!
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Just say no thanks. Or, if you want to be friends with the guy, say "sure and let's invite some friends, too." He gets the idea that you want to hang out but not in a romantic way. If he pushes the situation, just say you're not interested. It will hurt him less if you say it up front than if you drag out the whole affair.
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Start with a straight "thanks for asking, but I don't think so", because you really don't need to make excuses for yourself. If he asks why, tell him "I just don't think we're suited in that way". If he starts to go on about really liking you, say "I appreciate that, but I don't feel the same way, so let's leave it there shall we?". You need to retain control of these conversations. Be firm but polite and don't think you have to put up with the guy badgering you. It's not your problem if he refuses to hear the word no.
