throw a party and invite everyone you want to show the 'new you' to, flirt a little with everyone, but dont go too far. show your confident enough to be flirty but not enough to commit. dress sexy but not slutty, and use the most of your features to emphasize your cofidence but still be the same you personality wise so no arragont demands!

Ask them about themselves and find some common ground (values, interests, etc.) If you show an active interest in what they have to say, you'll come across as interested and less intimidating.

Lol, I think we share the same brain!!! I'm exactly as you describe and find that men fall into 3 categories: 1) the "she's a really strong person, so she'll look after me" type. Presuming you want a weak man... 2) the "she's a cocky madam and needs to be taken down a peg or two" type, which can be really upsetting when you've done nothing to p*ss them off! 3) the "I like her, she's strong and funny and gives me a run for my money" type. Yes please. Don't try to change yourself. Do you have plenty of friends? If you do, and those friends include men, you're obviously an okay person. You can't amend your personality to reflect what you THINK other people want - just embrace yourself for the person you are. If this guy falls into category 3, he'll like you just as you are. Good luck! :0)