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Hon there is no easy way to say this or for you to hear it but Jill is right. You have lost him, and what you have of him is not worth keeping. Dump him asap if not sooner, you dont deserve a jerk that would do this in the first place. He doesnt value you or your relationship. You might keep him by not confronting him, but you wont keep your self respect and you wont begin to heal your pain while your around him. Just get rid of him and leave your life open to someone coming in to you who will respect you and treat you with respect. xxx

Don't want to lose him? You can't lose what you've never really had. He has so little respect for you, he is continuing to have an affair that I'm guessing he knows you are aware of. Think about the kind of jerk who can do this to the one person they should love and respect.

The longer you put off confronting him, he longer you will be heartbroken. You can decide to stay with him and continue to be heartbroken for as long as you and he are together or kick him to the curb, hurt for awhile and then get over the pain. I can tell you that I'd do the second one - I'd rather be in control of my own life and would prefer the pain to be finite.