Don't want to lose him? You can't lose what you've never really had. He has so little respect for you, he is continuing to have an affair that I'm guessing he knows you are aware of. Think about the kind of jerk who can do this to the one person they should love and respect. The longer you put off confronting him, he longer you will be heartbroken. You can decide to stay with him and continue to be heartbroken for as long as you and he are together or kick him to the curb, hurt for awhile and then get over the pain. I can tell you that I'd do the second one - I'd rather be in control of my own life and would prefer the pain to be finite.

Hon there is no easy way to say this or for you to hear it but Jill is right. You have lost him, and what you have of him is not worth keeping. Dump him asap if not sooner, you dont deserve a jerk that would do this in the first place. He doesnt value you or your relationship. You might keep him by not confronting him, but you wont keep your self respect and you wont begin to heal your pain while your around him. Just get rid of him and leave your life open to someone coming in to you who will respect you and treat you with respect. xxx

i know it is hard, but you must confront him and give him an ultimatum,he is having his cake and eating it at the moment.you say you dont want to lose him, but what about yourself?your life is upside down at the moment until you decide to talk about it,he may decide to finish the affair if he knows that he will lose you if he doesnt,i went through this 5 years ago,and our marriage has been stronger than ever since,we communicate so much better now.

I know its difficult, but you have to be strong and IGNORE.. Or try to solve the problems between both of you, and if he stayed the same, there is no benifit in this relation for you, you will spend your life and grow old attached to some one who does not love you. Dont spend time, life is short, you desrerve better. Read a book called "I can mend your broken heart" by Paul Mc Kenna, he is amaaaazing.

I know its hard, specially when love is involved, but you don't want to lose him? He should be the one, not wanting to lose you. I did this with my ex and over looked and ignored him texting other women and meeting them in his lunch hour at work. As much as it broke my heart, I needed to do something to keep what was left of my self-respect, pride etc, intact. I guess he is aware of what hes doing and that you know, and he obviously is taking advantage, knowing you wont dare leave or tackle him about it, in other words, having best of both worlds. Confront him or write him a letter and go for a walk for an hour while he reads it. Say you know, and have known for a while, either he ends the affair or its the end of us.

Look honey if you want him back your gonna have to talk to him and tell him all your feelings. There is a way of getting him jelous but if you are jelous you know what you gotta do you got to get a boyfriend and make him jelous. If he doesnt care that you like someone else that means that he dont really like you as a girlfriend. But try it and maybe he will respond.