Tell him you are not that kind of girl and cut him off- tell him you need the full package (sex+relationship). Don't initiate contact for a couple weeks and he will probably be chasing you after that. If not, he is a pig.
Making him wait really is the only way of knowing. I have a 3 month rule and have never broken or comprimised this rule, as I think its a good time frame to get to know someone, and if they're worth having sex with then they should be prepared to wait 3 months!also be wary of manipulative guys, who try and convince you that sex will bring you 'closer together' and move the relationship to the next level. Any guy who applies this kind of pressure on you, really isn't the type you want a relationship with. Hope this helps : )
I was seeing this guy a couple of months ago, he has a reaalllyyy bad reputation for using girls but, as silly as i am, i thought he had changed.. i told my sister and she disagreed & thought he was just in it to get his leg over...
We made a deal that on our next date i would do nothing with him, not kiss, nothing.
I stuck to my side of the deal & surprisingly enough he ignored me when i spoke to him, blocked my calls and forgot he ever knew me.. My sister was right all along.
Don't de-value your self by sleeping with him because your scared you'll loose him. Get rid.
Abstain. Say you don't want to take things too fast or your not interested in a purely physical relationship at the moment.
If he sticks around then you got a good one, if he's only interetested in sex then he'll find someone new.
Yes, young guys think of sex A LOT. But the ones who are more than just a pen*s with legs will get together with a girl for other reasons than just sex.
I won't lie and say that sex won't be a goal for him, but if you find a guy who really likes you, he'll be more willing to do this on your terms and it won't be as much of an issue.
You MUST tell him you do not want to do that anymore ! I was in teh same situation one and when I found someonw else I was able to tell him to get lost - it felt good !
Why would you like a guy who is just using you for sex? Would you still like a friend you you knew was just using you? Try repeating this phrase to yourself:
"What care I how fair he be,
If he undervalue me?"
Go out and find someone wonderful who will really value you. I know it's hard, but it's the only way to be happy.
I tell them in the beginning, either you can be a one night stand, and I will never see you again, or we can get to know each other. If he opts for the one night stand, you know where it is going.....
Alternatively.....
There is a concept known as F**k buddies - or if you are going to be pious 'a friend with privileges'! ;D
It is best to get the parameters sorted out beforehand, but these chaps can make the best friends that you'll ever have since you are totally relaxed and at ease with each other.
Hes using you and hes never going to change, harsh I know but it needs to be said!! My mate was going back to a boys house for over a year, she thought he'd change - he didn't! She stopped it then had a text off him saying he loved her, so she went back to him, and surprisingly he didn't wanna know again until he was next horny. Cut him off completely and find someone decent, he ain't ever gonna change for you now. No offence but he won't have any respect for you now.
Treat him the same way you would treat any prospective boyfriend - you should be "interviewing HIM for the job" and evaluating him as much as you are hoping that he will like you. Does he treat you respectfully, take you out on public dates, call when he says he's going to? But you should always listen to that little voice of intuition that is telling you to be wary, it's usually there for a reason.
most guys (and girls) do feel that sex is an important part of expressing their romantic feelings, but not all; you might want to check out www.asexuality.org .