For a start, NEVER do it if you feel any pressure at all. Always examine your motives for doing it: Do you want to just because all your friends are? Or becasue he is pressuring you and you think he will leave you if you don't? Both of these are NOT good reasons to sleep with someone - you will REALLY regret it. Only do it if you are in a committed relationship which you can see going on for a long time with someone who makes you feel relaxed and happy. You have to value yourself very highly, because you're worth it!
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Topics: romance relationships sex
How to know when you're ready to have sex for the first time
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If in doubt, then don't!! Don't be rushed and make sure you are in a loving, trusting relationship first. Try not to do anything which may cause you regret later. Make your first time special some how, it only happens once.
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Be confident that he'll stay with you after, and talk to him about it as he's probably thinking the same things and has the same niggly doubts. The first time isn't amazing, it's awkward and embarassing, so m,ake sure you feel comfortable together and can laugh about any dodgy experiences. Make sure you both want to, don't do it if you don;t want to or you'll regret it. make it special as well, as you'll always remember your first time.
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Every girl is different and it will be a lot less awkward and painful if you and your boyfriend relax with each other. you could always leave it a while and do other things (if you no wot i mean ;)) so you feel comfortable with your body around him and therefore when you do have sex you will be able to relax and it will be even better. sex is meant to be fun, so stop worrying and enjoy your first time.. youll only ever lose your virginity once so make it special..
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It shouldn't matter so much what age you are when you lose your virginity (although in the UK it's illegal for girls to have sex under the age of 16) but should depend on whether or not you are mentally ready. Also, have a good think about the reasons behind why you want to take this big step. Please don't do it because you feel like all your friends have. It all depends on you!!
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This is a big decision and if you are in any doubt at all DON'T DO IT. You should take the law on age very seriously as (even if you want to do it) your boyfriend could go to jail. So if you've been together that long why not wait just a little while longer? You sound like you need time to be ready. And, by the way, it's far cooler to wait until you are comfortable with it - that way it really will be special.
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You only get to do this once. Don't spoil it by doing something that will make you feel guilty or pressured. It isn't the most important thing in the world but start your sex life off in the way you want to continue it. Doing the right thing, at the right time with the right person. It should be something that enhances your relationship. When it is the right time then remember to be safe and take your time!
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I don't know if there is a sign that you're ready. I think it just happens to us all! I have never met anyone who had fun or thought it was special the first time. It's extremely awkward and you almost always regret it years later. Just use your best judgment. and if you have bad judgment then wait until you are older and can handle the emotional stress that comes with sex.
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If you're ready to have sex for the first time then it will just happen naturally. If you have any doubts at all then its not meant to be.
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Don't worry so much about it. He knows it's your first time, so ask him to show you what he likes. It's a very simple solution!
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I lost my virginity only 4 months ago. Yes it hurts, but the pain quickly fades and if you are confident that what you're doing is right, and your partner is gentle, it's bearable. It takes about a month for it be COMPLETELY pain free. good luck, make sure it's the right time
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Please don't be tempted to do the deed too soon, you've both waited this long, make it special when you can both enjoy the moment without fear of getting into trouble or pregnant (take precautions because you can become pregnant first time). If you have sex or make love too young you will have regrets later on even though you think you will not. Also, depending on what your hobbies/activities are it may not hurt that much, especially if you both take your time to arouse each other first. Your hymen may be stretched by use of tampons or sports anyway. Remember you only have one first time!!!
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Relax, if your worrying and stressing about it it will hurt because you'll be tense. If your not ready then don't be pressurised into it. Just go with the flow, if it is planned your more likely to be tense. Maybe go away for a dirty weekend, have a few drinks and get in the mood then see what happens, but don't feel bad if you don't end up going through with it due to nerves, your boyfriend should understand.
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if you feel your not ready to have sex, dont! only do it when your with someone your in love with and when you feel completely ready. you can always do other sexual things instead of sex, this also gives you a chance to explore what he likes and he can explore what you like. then if you decide to do it with him it will be all the better.good luck.
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You're young for such a short time, enjoy being young!! Doing things like working,having sex, paying bills , responsibility etc...that's all going to happen soon enough,there's no rush...
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i think it doesn't matter whether your in a relationship or not, as long as it is with a person you trust completely and feel that it is the right time- and most importantly you will have no regrets then you are ready. I lost my virginity at a young age to my best friend, who i wasn't in a relationship with, i made sure i would have no regrets about it then and to this day i still have no problem with it, i still talk regularly with him and i am glad it was with a friend rather than a boyfriend i would inevitably break up with later on down the line. have no regrets!
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Don't get pressured into it or because "everybody's doing it". Wait until you're in a relationship amd you both feel comfortable with it. If you have more important things to focus on (e.g. school, grades, college.) then prepare, get on the pill and use protection, as an unwanted pregnancy can really screw things up for you. As long as you feel ready, then you are. xo
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Don`t be worried about it. If your boyfriend really loves you then it shouldn`t matter if your good in bed or not. Plus if your not good in bed then so what it`s your first time. Just have fun!!
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Boys/men will ALWAYS try for sex, but they don't necessarily expect to get it - it's one of those "if you don't ask, you don't get" situations. Young men are just a mass of raging testosterone and whilst they're blathering on about how much they want you, they generally just need to get their rocks off! You're likely to hear all the "if you loved me you'd want to show it" patter, but stand firm and tell him gently that sex is a really intimate thing for you and you're just not ready to make love with him yet. He might not look too happy, but if he truly likes you he'll be a bit more patient. No girl should get into the habit of having sex just to keep a boy in her life, you'll just end up with rubbish self-esteem and feel like sex is all you have to offer.
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I've came close to doing it with a few guys since i was 15, but everytime we got the condom on n they got to the opening it just didnt feel right, or they took to long n i lost interest, n i would end up stopping it from entering me n saying no.. luckily i was right & i always ended up slitting up with those guys.. now 20, n i met my fiance january 5th, only 9 days later, it just felt so right,so magical n amazing, we ended up having sex. sounds crazy just after 9 days, but when you meet the right person, it just feels right, & it just happens.. i'm actually glad that i waiting and wouldnt have regretted doing it with guys who meant nothing & who woulda been just 'spurs' of the moment..
